Wednesday, August 19, 2015

White Sorority Girls Have It Just As Hard As Racial Minorities, Thank You Very Much

While the rest of the country is still floundering to deal with all of those icky race issues, there's at least one place in America that's got it figured out: Wake Forest University. Thanks to a student at my old stomping grounds, the internet got an article last night that combines graceful intelligence with sensitive empathy to essentially say, 'Hey minorities, we get it. But if you're going to judge me for being in a sorority, I can't stop judging you for being a different race.'

Reaction to the article was pretty harsh, even leading to it being removed from theodysseyonline.com. But not before I had a chance to read some of the nasty comments. And not before I had the chance to copy and paste the article here. 

I've decided to defend this article and its author. If you've yet to read the article yourself, please direct your attention to the elegant essay below before reading my review. In seriousness, Caroline 

(note: I removed the author's name to protect her from further stereotyping based on her coffee drinks and the group of friends who accept her). 

My Defense Of This Article - In 7 Parts

1) The author admits to feeling bad sometimes about her race and fashion choices.

2) The author quotes two of the leading voices in racial equality - Ben Carson and Lana Del Rey. Had she mentioned the Pillsbury Dougboy, she would have had the trifecta.

3) The author states that before the "Rap Video" controversery she did not notice any racial tension on the WFU campus. And if she didn't notice it, then it wasn't there. Science.

4) The author reminds us of the saying, "The grass isn't greener on the other side." You might find the use of this insensitive, but all she means is that while racial minorities might *think* it's easier to be white in America, they are soooooOoOoOooo wrong.

5) The author CLEARLY recognizes the MAIN ISSUE of racial discrimination on campus: the greater number of tributes to Arnold Palmer than of those to Chris Paul.

6) The author says that she heard you, minorities. She might not have heard what you were saying "exactly", but she heard you. And that's what you wanted. You're welcome.
7) If you stop judging her (for starbucks and sorority letters) she'll stop judging you (for your skin color and generations of prejudice that have systematically disenfranchised and oppressed others like you). Win, Win.

Finally, I think some of you haters might be forgetting she went to prom with a bi-racial guy. So she's allowed to say whatever she wants.

And now, the article:



At Wake Forest University, nationally ranked 27th, we pride ourselves on being some of the most educated students in the nation with a better work ethic than any other school because we go to “Work Forest,” yet we aren’t smart enough to work out the racial discrimination on our campus.
To be honest, sometimes I feel bad about being white and preppy. Why? Because some people on our campus make me feel that I should feel ashamed of the life that my parents gave me even though they worked day and night to give me a better life than they had growing up in rural West Virginia. 
So, please tell me why I shouldn’t judge you when you judge me for drinking Starbucks and wearing my letters. I’m a proud member of a sorority, and I love Starbucks. Why does that give you a reason to mock me? It shouldn’t.
I don’t want to make this article about my frustration with my personal experiences. This isn’t about Greek life, brands, or what you choose to do on the weekend; this is about the underlying tension that has driven our campus into reckless discussions about discrimination. 
Before the rap video controversy of last fall, the racial tension on campus wasn't very apparent to me. Despite the occasional whispers of people feeling treated differently, no one had said anything loud enough to start a movement. When the article on KA's party came out, I started to see things differently. 
I've never been the type of person to judge anyone by his or her skin color. My first boyfriend was bi-racial, a fact that did not affect our relationship in any significant way. I loved him for the person he is.
When all of the drama began on campus I felt like others considered me as a racist just because I am white. As far as I’m concerned, this discrimination goes both ways. 
Wake Forest, I believe that we’re smarter than this.
In this CNN article, Ben Carson, one of the many Republican presidential candidates, is quoted saying, "I operate on the thing that makes the person who they are. The skin doesn't matter to me. I really don't think those superficial characteristics have a place in society today."
That resonated with me far more than the prosecutions of our fellow Demon Deacons. Chalking the sidewalks, victimizing a fraternity when a small group of individuals are at fault and, most recently, analyzing my article. When I wrote an innocent, humorous article practically mocking our campuse's culture, it was analyzed far beyond my intentions. I have always been an advocate of ending the divide between the minorities and the majority on campus, so you see why it was a shock for me to be considered an advocate of white privilege. The Facebook turmoil is an incredible reflection on our campus.
Is White Privilege to Blame?
While -- as in any condensed community -- Wake Forest may inhabit some close minded, racist individuals, from my experience here, these individuals are low in number. Personally, I don’t think the problems on our campus stem from race, but from people’s insecurities. Like Carson said, race is a “superficial characteristic.”

Do you really find sorority girls, as a whole, annoying and b*tchy, or do you have a personal issue with a greek individual?

When I heard the line, "They judge me like a picture book by the colors, like they forgot to read," in Lana Del Ray's song "Brooklyn Baby," I couldn't help but think of how clearly that articulates discrimination.


Everyone at Wake has insecurities, many of which result from us trying to conquer society's unattainable standards. Look around. How many girls do you see with eating disorders? How many of your friends are on anxiety meds? How many have drug addictions? I feel anxiety just thinking about going back to the environment where my problems began.
Like the old saying goes, 'The grass isn't always greener on the other side.'
I think that once we truly understand each other we can look beyond people's outward appearances. 
Embrace Diversity
These insecurities are hindering our social climate from being the melting pot that it should be. 

When we arrived on campus our freshman year, we knew that Wake Forest University is generally a bubble of southern and northern preps located in Winston Salem, North Carolina. It was never a surprise to me that sundresses were common and that “y’all” was part of people’s regular vocabulary. Thinking any differently would be like going to New York University and not expecting the students’ wardrobes to be mainly black or attending West Virginia University and expecting to never see camo and blue jeans.
We go to a school that cherishes Arnold Palmer like he’s a saint and only mentions Chris Paul on occasion. Clearly there’s a problem that goes beyond the student body itself.
That doesn’t mean things won’t change. Minorities, we heard you loud and clear. Let’s put our differences aside and change our campus climate together. Stop judging my background and I’ll stop judging you.
We should accept each other for who we are and learn from our different backgrounds. 
Our backgrounds, our problems, and our futures are all different.
There are people who are fed with the silver spoon and fail just as much as there are people born without a dime and make it big.
Remember freshman year when most of the conversations we had were just trying to learn people’s backgrounds? Let’s take a step back and start from there. Let’s actually get to know people before accusing them of preps, thugs, rednecks, anything. 
According to the Wake Forest University website, “The College honors the ideals of liberal learning, which encourages habits of mind that ask ‘why,’ that evaluate evidence, that are open to new ideas, that attempt to understand and appreciate the perspectives of others, that accept complexity and grapple with it.” Wake Forest, I believe that’s true. I think that we’re allowing our insecurities to overcome our brains. How can we be open to new ideas if we aren’t open to each other?
I believe that Wake Forest University could be a model for society instead of an ugly carbon copy. Just because the rest of America is in turmoil over race doesn’t mean that we should be.
(note: since the publication of this post, the above article was reinstated to theodysseyonline.com.)

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Self-Employed, Vol. 3

Well people, the unthinkable happened: someone else hired me. Actually, a few someone elses hired me. Don't be intimidated, but you are now reading the words of a babysitter/temp worker/after-school-care-employee EXTRAORDINAIRE. In the words of Hallmark greeting cards, "When God closes a door, He hires you for part-time jobs."

I  know what you're all thinking: "Wow, Miley Cyrus really told Taylor Swift off in that Marie Claire interview. What does this mean for Ed Sheeran???" 

But that's not really what this blog is about. It's about me and how I hire myself to do really important jobs that make the world a better place. And I'm not going to quit doing it just because these other jobs pay me with money and get me out of the apartment or WHATEVER. I present to you...

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SELF-EMPLOYED, VOLUME 3: 
OFFICIAL NYC TOUR GUIDE

Ah, New York City. Who doesn't dream of visiting this urban paradise? If you're one of the trillion people (that's an accurate statistic) who will visit the city this year, you may only have a few days to swing around the concrete jungle. That's why I, Caroline Drew - your official guide to the Big Apple - am here to share the best and most beloved spots of NYC. 

Spot 1: The Sidewalk



This cemented walking platform ( nicknamed the "Sidewalk" by Rudy Giuliani in '96) is a MUST SEE. It's got everything from discarded cigarettes to homeless people. Pro tip: sometimes the Sidewalk stops and you have to step onto another walking platform (the "Street") but have no fear - Another piece of cement heaven is just a few steps away! 


Spot 2: The Tree In A Box


Some less official (and less pretty) tour guides might send you to the Metropolitan Museum of Art or the MOMA, but that's because they hate you. True New York Art cannot be contained by a building. It can, however, be contained by a box made of wooden planks. Just think about the skill it took to make such a piece! Paris has the Mona Lisa. Florence has the David. And New York City has "The Tree In A Box." (Note: TTIAB was constructed in 1603 by the ancestors of Frank Sinatra). 

Spot 3: This Place


Nothing says "Big Apple" like pills, dolphins, and induced sleep. Frequented by the Yankees, Lorne Michaels, and old Italian guys who work in pizza shops, this place will not disappoint...but it will make you go dream. 

Spot 4: Heels On Wheels


New York is famous for it's night life and there is no club more exciting, or more exclusive, than "Heels on Wheels." Located next to The Sidewalk, this club hosts raging dance parties in the bed of a truck that once belonged to Jackie O. Pro Tip: you MUST wear heels to be admitted and make sure to arrive early! There is only space for 12, maybe 13, guests. 

Spot 5: Curly Headed Guy



This is less of a "spot" and more of a "spotting." Forget what you heard about Jay-Z or FDR or rats on the subway - Curly Headed Guy is THE New Yorker. Rumor has it that if you're lucky enough to find this spiral-haired legend you will be granted 7 years of luck and all of your instagrams will get at least 10000 likes. As you can see in the above photo, I was fortunate enough to catch a glimpse of the only other New Yorker who might be able to rival Curly Headed Guy's celebrity status: Curly Headed Guy's Girlfriend. She is like Curly Headed Guy, but with darker curls and lady parts. 

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That's all for today people! Come back next time for more serious writing on this most serious of blogs.